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What do you think? If someone dies who has confessed all venial and mortal sins will he or she go right to heaven? I was pondering this question and it seemed to me the answer was “no” and for this reason. If you are still overly-attached to anyone or any thing you wouldn’t be happy in heaven, because you would still be longing for what you are attached to on earth. Therefore, your purgatory would be a severing of that over-attachment, perhaps through such a strong experience of God’s love and what you loved more on earth would be encircled, as it were, in God instead of clutched onto instead of God.
My advice in situ is simple to say and extraordinarily difficult to do: realize the extent to which the cancer patient’s experiences are directly touching your own and, depending on closeness or distance, may even be changing you. Focus on what you are feeling and doing and use it as a springboard toward understanding yourself. Talk THIS over with your pet cancer patient and now we are both in the land of the true, the painful, the glorious, and most precisely, the unknown. Short of climbing into the cancer patient’s body, it’s the closest you can get to real sharing.